Opinion: Letter to the Editor: Beyond Father’s Day
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Opinion: Letter to the Editor: Beyond Father’s Day

“And remember the time when We took a covenant from the children of Israel: ‘You shall worship nothing but Allah and show kindness to parents and to kindred and to the orphans and the poor, and speak to men kindly and observe Prayer, and pay the Zakat:’ then you turned away in aversion, except a few of you” (2:84).

The verse above from the Holy Qur’an gives me an even greater appreciation for my father who in Urdu I refer to as Abu. I read this verse and think about how people have misconstrued view of the relationship between Muslim fathers and their daughters as one without love.

As I typed in Father’s Day in the Google search engine, I expected a Wikipedia page about the history to show up as the first link. However, I was fascinated to see how many Groupon ad messages appeared with activities to do for the nation-wide celebration. It saddens me that every time a holiday comes and passes through the years some people tend to stray away from the meaning and true purpose of the holiday. These holidays are used as an excuse by marketers to encourage people to go out and pay for a “Father’s Day 3 Course Meal” package deal. Families feel the need to spend money on one day due to deeply rooted societal pressures which they believe is necessary to go out and spend. Sure these pressures of going out with the family does have a positive side in that it brings everyone together which can be difficult for some families on any normal day.

But to appreciate fathers on just one day should not satisfy the soul of any child. It is very difficult for me personally to stay upset with my father at any time because I always remind myself of everything he must have to deal with on a daily basis and how he keeps his calm and composure while not mentioning any of it or bothering others with his stresses. It makes any pressures I may be dealing with seem so irrelevant and small.

I look at my dad and sometimes ponder at the fact that once upon a time he was my age and I wonder with amazement at how he has formed such a flawless character throughout his life. When I as a Muslim daughter hear the word “father,” I automatically think of someone who can hold down a fort, someone who has leadership qualities, is calm, collected and can recover from any and every situation with ease. A father is someone who only expresses his good strong characteristics in front of others and seems like he never sheds a tear. Ever. He is someone who loves watching gladiator or old western films because he admires and wishes to achieve or relate with those warrior-like traits. A father is someone who does not say much but when he does it means a lot! Every father may not have the qualities I laid out above but these are certainly the ones possessed by my dear father. He is my role model whom I look up to everyday. Adulthood can be scary at times but when I see my dad I am reminded that at his age and with everything he has gone through, if he can keep his relaxed stature then I sure can too! Fathers will always be there. It takes time for some of us to learn and appreciate that simple fact but at the end of the day we do not realize everything they do since they are the guardian of the household or the captain of the fort and how everyday they get up to keep that fort from falling down.

Marium Sadia Sosan Malik

Chantilly